Paano maobliga ang asawa na magsustento sa anak? How to obligate father to financially support his children

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Gusto ko lang po sana humingi ng tulong na legal kung paano ko mao-obliga ang dati kong asawa na magsustento sa aming anak.



Taong 2012 pa po kami hiwalay ng dati kong asawa at ako po ay nagpasya mag-abroad habang sya naman ay nasa Pilipinas lang at dun nya napili magtrabaho. Sa panahon na yun, ako lahat nagsusuporta sa mga gastusin ng aming anak at kung minsan nagbibigay sya ng 2000 pesos para sa 2 bata.


Taong 2015 nagkausap kami at sinabihan ko sya na dapat tulungan nya ako sa gastos ng 2 bata. Sa ngayon nagbibigay na sya ng 4500 para sa 2 bata na tinatanggap ko na lang mas mabuti sa wala. Nayon po sinsabi ng anak ko na nag-abroad na din ama nya at nagmessege ko sa kanya at sinabi ko na paghatian na namin ang gastos ng 2 bata dahil pareho na kami sa abroad, dahil sa totoo lang po sobrang laki ng gastos sa maga bata sa kanilang pagaaral at pangaraw araw na gastos. Sa punto pong yun pag sustento na hindi sya nakikipagusap sakin.


Kaya po sana gusto ko humingi ng payong legal mula sa inyo. Sa ngayon ang kanyang ina ang pinapadalhan nya ng pera. Ano po kaya pede ko gawin para legal na maobliga sya magsustento sa mga anak namin at ipadala yung pera sa pangalan ng anak ko kasi po uuwi ako ngaun March sa Pinas at ipago-open ko ng account ang anak ko para dun sya magpdala.



Tsaka nga po pala attorney, gusto ko din po itanong sa inyo paano po kaya ako mag-file ng annulment sa Pinas kung pareho kami nasa abroad? May paraan po ba para mpawalang bisa kasal namin kung pareho kami wala sa Pilipinas?


Maraming Salamat po.


 

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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
is a Legal expert in the Philippines
Well, sometimes I have a very naughty mind. I feel that this reply post should be entitled "(Not-so-legal) Ways to get your husband to support your children" (hehehe, joke lang po)

1. The refusal of a father to support his children is now a criminal act under RA 7610. Ito po ay isang act of Child abuse. So, you can threaten to file a criminal case like this, or you can actually file a criminal case like this.

The problem is, if you do succeed in getting your husband criminally charged and arrested, he will not be able to work, so he won't be able to support your children anyway -- he will not even be able to support himself.

2. In Australia, they have a mechanism by which the government runs after Australian citizens there and abroad, threatening to cancel their passports and report them to the Interpol for maltreatment of children because of their refusal to support their children. The Australian government requires the Australian citizen to authorize a salary deduction which the government deposits in the account of the children. WALA PONG GANITO SA PILIPINAS. And if ever we have this, I am sure, the funds will not reach the children, instead, some fake NGO will get it.

3. Have you tried carino? Have you tried asking your children to write to their father? Have you tried to get your children to write compositions in school about their father (in a good light, how they miss him, what a good example he is, how when they grow up they want to be like him, etc.) and attached to a copy of the composition and a picture of them getting an award, you will attach a statement of account from the school stating how much you have not yet paid. Sometimes, men feel protective about their wallet because they think that the "support" for the kids will just go into chicheria or something. But when you attach statements of account and billings from doctors, hospitals, schools, etc, fathers respond. And then, be sure to give a thank you note and also attach a copy of the receipt showing that it was paid. kasi, trust begins to build.

Make your kids go directly to their father. Children have an uncanny ability, art and skill to open their father's wallets that even wives (with all their allure and promise of s-x-u-l favors do not have. If kids would bottle this ability and market it, naku, yayaman ang lahat ng mga ina.

Are you on good terms with your in-laws? Do your children spend time with their grandparents? maybe it could come from this angle.

Please be creative. Sometimes, legal means take too long and the hassle of just getting your husband served with summons where he works abroad is like launching a paper airplane into the air and hoping it will reach its destination abroad.

I wish I could help you more.
Dear Atty. Bimbi,

Thank you po sa reply, pero gusto ko po sana itanong yun po bang deman of support na sinsabi nila ay pwede ko ipagawa sa isang abogado kasi sa totoo lang po hindi kami nagkakausap ng dati kong asawa. Gusto ko lang na ibigay sa byenan kong babae yung kasulatan na yun para po yun ang paghatian namin na amount ng sustento sa mga bata.

Yung sa tanong nyo po kung ayos kami ng in laws ko hindi po kami ayos ng byenan kong babae at pati mga kapatid nyang panganay na babae. Sa unang taon pa lng po ng aming pagsasama hindi nila ako tanggap para sa kapatid nila sa kadahilanan na maaga po kami nagpakasal at hindi na nakatulong sa knila pinansyal ang dati kong asawa.

Sa ngayon po hindi ko alam kung nakausap na ulit ng mga anak ko ang kanilang ama kasi nabanggit lang nila skin na nung 1st week ng March tpos ngayon wala na po ulit nauulit.

Sa ngayon po yung kasulatan na lng na yun ang gusto ko po ibigay sa kanila para sundin nila nkasulat sa papel na yun.

Salamat po..
Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
is a Legal expert in the Philippines
Desiree,
You can always go to a lawyer and ask a lawyer to write a demand letter for you. You can always furnish a copy of this demand letter to your husband at his place of work or at his last known address (sa house ng mga magulang niya).

kasi, kahit ba ayaw nila sa iyo, that does not relieve him or his family from their obligations to support your children. Walang kinalaman ang mga bata sa problema sa pagpapakasal ng kanilang mga magulang -- wala pa silang muwang noon, at hindi nila pinili na sila'y ipanganak. so, kahit na hindi ka tanggap ng iyong mga in-laws, ang mga bata ay dapat pa ring suportahan. Iyong ang batas.
Yhen Tabilid
is in Taiwan
To:atty.Bimbi
Tanong ko po sana kung anong need na gawin kung gusto ko po palitan ang last name ng anak na nakasunod sa apelyido ng dati kung ka live in? Naghiwalay po kami 4 na taon na ang nakalipas at never siya sumoporta sa anak ko khit isang beses.Ngayon nasa abroad po siya at patapos na ang contract niya ngayong may 2016.Kung sakali po ba na need ang perma niya at ayaw niya pumerma ano po kaya ang pwede kung gawin? Sana po mabigyan niyo ng pansin ang mga katanungan ko.Maraming salamat po.
Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
is a Legal expert in the Philippines
Teka, ano ang ibig mong sabihin?

1. Iyong ka-live-in mo ang biological father ng anak mo?
2. Sabi mo, ipinangalan mo sa ka-live-in mo dati ang anak mo -- iyong ka-live-in mo ay pumirma noong affidavit of recognition sa likod ng birth certificate noong bata?
3. Ano ang gusto mong mangyari? Palitan ng apelyido ang bata? Pilitin na magpadala ng sustento ang lalaki?
4. Sabi mo kailangan mo ang pirma niya -- para saan? Para baguhin ang apelyido noong bata?

Hindi ko maintindihan ang post mo, hindi tuloy kita masagot ng lubusan. Mag-post ka ng sarili mo. Huwag sa ganito, dahil sa hindi ko laging napapansin ang ibang mga reply. Post ka ng iba, sa sarili mo, huwag sa reply. Okay?

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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose

I am a graduate of the UP College of Law. Member of the Integrated Bar of the Philippines since 1995. I am currently involved in private practice in criminal, civil and labor law.
Profession: Lawyer
Adelaimar C. Arias-Jose
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