Nagkahiwalay kami ng live-in partner ko 9 months ago, simula noon sobrang limited ang contact ko sa anak namin na 3yrs old palang, nasa middle east ako ngayon, matagal na nandito pamilya ko. sobrang limited contact namin ng anak ko,minsan 2 weeks pa bago ko makausap. naka-depende lahat ng contact namin sa EX ko at wala din ako decision na pwede gawin at gusto pa ata baguhin yung apelido dahil hindi naman daw kami kasal. ngyare pa yung bigla niya sinabi sakin na hindi na ako parte ng buhay nila kaya hindi ko nakausap ng 1 month anak namin, na ospital lang kaya bumalik yung contact. natatakot lang ako na baka pag naging financially stable siya eh bigla niya ako cut-off. may magagawa ba ako na makakuha ng equal parental rights kahit malayo ako? may chance ba na makakuha ako ng yearly vistation dito or any out of the country vacation na ako lang kasama ng anak namin. Thank you in advance
Atty. Bimbi
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in the Philippines
Well, both parents have rights over their child kahit na hindi sila kasal. As usually happens, children become a pawn in their parents' struggle for dominance. Kawawa ang mga bata.
If you want to be a part of your child's life, then you should be a part of your child's life. Ilang taon na ba ang bata?
Kasi, kung marunong nang mag-facebook ang bata, eh, di, sa facebook kayo mag-contact sa isa't-isa. If the child has a cell phone, get the child's cellphone number. Better yet, mag-apply ka ng cellphone na postpaid, ikaw ang nagbabayad, at ito ay ibigay mo sa bata, para matawagan mo siya. Bigyan mo ng tablet, na may naka-set-up na na Skype or Facetime (kung sa iPad) para makapag-usap kayo.
Be creative. And, above all, keep sending the child books, games, christmas cards, birthday cards, anything from Amazon or some online shop. Send mo directly to their address. Kung sila'y lumilipat-lipat, ipadala mo sa bahay ng mga magulang noong EX mo.
Open a bank account (time deposit and ATM savings) for your child. Dito ka mag-padala ng amount para sa bata iyong savings account, doon iyong pang-araw-araw na gastos. Iyong time deposit, pang college ng bata. Diba?
Nasa sa iyo na iyon.
If worse comes to worst, get a lawyer, compel your EX to give you access and contact with your child. It is always in the best interest of the child na may contact siya sa both parents niya.
If you want to be a part of your child's life, then you should be a part of your child's life. Ilang taon na ba ang bata?
Kasi, kung marunong nang mag-facebook ang bata, eh, di, sa facebook kayo mag-contact sa isa't-isa. If the child has a cell phone, get the child's cellphone number. Better yet, mag-apply ka ng cellphone na postpaid, ikaw ang nagbabayad, at ito ay ibigay mo sa bata, para matawagan mo siya. Bigyan mo ng tablet, na may naka-set-up na na Skype or Facetime (kung sa iPad) para makapag-usap kayo.
Be creative. And, above all, keep sending the child books, games, christmas cards, birthday cards, anything from Amazon or some online shop. Send mo directly to their address. Kung sila'y lumilipat-lipat, ipadala mo sa bahay ng mga magulang noong EX mo.
Open a bank account (time deposit and ATM savings) for your child. Dito ka mag-padala ng amount para sa bata iyong savings account, doon iyong pang-araw-araw na gastos. Iyong time deposit, pang college ng bata. Diba?
Nasa sa iyo na iyon.
If worse comes to worst, get a lawyer, compel your EX to give you access and contact with your child. It is always in the best interest of the child na may contact siya sa both parents niya.
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