MAY IIWANAN -- O MAY BABALIKAN? - To leave husband for another man or stay?

Doris Cornago
is a OFW group representative in the Philippines

Sumulat sa akin si Marietta dating isang bank clerk, namasukan bilang isang housekeeper sa Singapore dahil sa kakulangan ng sapat na dokumento para sa isang professional.



Ate Dorray:

Ako’y may asawa at nagta-trabaho biIang isang “housekeeper” sa Tanjong Pagar nang higit 2 taon sa isang Indianong “widower” at walang anak. Nakita ko ang dokumento na nagpapahayag nito. 35 taon ang edad ko at may itsura.


Ang aking amo ay mas matanda ng 10 taon kesa akin at maykaya sa buhay. May mga shops siya sa Mustafa, nagba-buy-and-sell ng leather goods galing China at mga RTW mula Korea. Masipag siya at magaling sa negosyo samantalang ang aking asawa ay walang kuwenta, babaero at hindi maaasahan maging sa pag-aalaga sa aming maga anak – edad 3, 5, at 10 taon. Tanging ang sariling nanay ko ang nag-aatupag ng mga anak ko.


Gusto ako pakasalan ng aking amo at ipamahala sa akin ang kanyang mga negosyo. Gusto daw niya ako bigyan ng higit na dignidad at kaluwagan. Naakit ako sa kanyang kakisigan at magandang pag-uugali.


Sinabi ko sa nanay ko ang plano kong paghiwalay sa aking asawang Pilipino at pagpapakasal sa amo ko. Sabi niya ay umuwi daw ako at makipag-ayos sa aking asawa bilang isang matinong ina at asawa. Mabababago din daw ang pag-uugali nito kung magkakabalikan kami. Ganito daw ang pangako sa kanya nito.


Tatapatin ko kayo Ate. Mahal ko na ang amo ko at maniwala ka o hindi, iginagalang niya ako at hindi pinipilit sa anumang bagay. Sa tantiya ko, nais ko magkaroon ng bagong buhay kasama siya kesa makipagbalikan sa aking asawa. Ano po ang mga hakbang na dapat konng gawin?

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Marietta:

Mahirap ang desisyon na gagawin mo. Marami itong anggulo. Tingnan natin kung anu-ano. Suriin mo muna mabuti ang damdamin sa pamamagitan ng mga tanong bago ka magdesisyon – sa Indiano, sa Pilipino mong asawa, sa iyong mga anak, at maging sa iyong nanay.


Siguro dapat humanap ka ng ibang mapapasukan upang hindi impluwensiyahan ng iyong among nanliligaw sa iyo. Mapapahamak ka kung ikukulong mo ang iyong sarili sa isang sitwasyon na hindi ka na makakalaya. Kung umalis ka ng Pilipinas para makalaya, ang pagbabalik sa sitwasyon na wala kang kalayaan ay isang pag-atras, at hindi pagsulong.


Sabihin na natin na maaaring makabuti sa iyo ang manliligaw na ito. Hindi ba isang pandaraya na ibigay mo sa kanya ang mga mabibigat mong problema? Ayusin mo muna ang problema sa asawa – paalaala mo sa kanya ang mga responsibilidad niya sa inyong mga anak.


Bigyan mo siya ng kalayaan kung hindi mo na nais gampanan ang iyong resposibilidad bilang asawa niya. Maging matatag ka muna sa sariling mga paa bago ka pumili ng bagong makakasama. Kung totoo ang job offer niya bilang tagapamahala, ibigay niya sa iyo ang tamang sueldo para makatulong sa iyong desisyon.



Tandaan mo ito: hindi maitutuwid ng isang pagkakamali ang isa pang pagkakamali. Maging matuwid ka bilang isang ina at asawa. Ilagay mo sa ayos ang kaya mo para umayos din ang lahat sa awa ng Diyos pagdating ng panahon.


Kung wagas nga ang pagmamahal ng lalaking ito, pinagpala ka nga at hindi dapat magmadali. Huwag ka pa-pressure, ipakita mo may dignidad ka at dangal, at humiwalay ka ng tirahan para kayong dalawa ay makapag-isip nang mabuti.


Sana sundin mo ang mga payo ko sa iyong ikakabuti.


Nagmamahal,


Ate Dorray



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Doris Cornago

I am the wife of a missionary and an events coordinator. In various capacities, I ensure that missions are carried out between Singapore and the Philippines until lately when my mom needed me after a stroke. Writing is both a hobby and a mission funding source. My writing projects include biographies of famous men, fiction novels, self-help ebooks,children's books, website administration and proofreading Christian books.
Profession: Coordinator
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Office Address: Cogeo Village, Bgy Bagong Nayon
Philippines , Singapore

 

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Doris Cornago
is a OFW group representative in the Philippines
Sabi ng isang 85 years old na dating titser at may 6 na mga propesyonal na anak: Magpakasal ka sa Indiano pagkatapos makipagkalas nang maayos sa asawang Pilipino. Tutal, ikaw naman ang inaasahan ng nanay mo para suportahan ang mga anak mo, papayag din ito sa desisyon mo. Kailangan lang patunayan sa nanay mo na hindi ito bugso ng damdamin, at tunay na pinag-isipan.
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Kung puedeng mo pang ayusin ang pamilya ay ayusin mo. ang reason kung bakit tayo nag abroad ay para sa pamilya natin.
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