Husband has live-in wife in the Philippines

Sarah Sanchez
is a Personal Secretary to DGM in Saudi Arabia

Ako po ay kasalukuyang nandito sa Jeddah, umalis ako ng bansa natin last 2010. Maayus kami ng asawa ko nung ako nangibang bansa. Pero early 2012 madami po ako nabalitaan na may ka live in daw po siya sa pinas. At ang bagay na ito ay pinatotohanan ng aming nagiisang anak dahil dinadala siya doon sa bahay nila. Umuwi ako last Sept 2012 at napatunayan ko na ang lahat ng nakarating sa akin ay totoo. Bumalik ako dito sa Jeddah para ipagpatuluy ang aking trabaho at masuportahan ang aking anak na kasalukuyang nasa pangangalaga ng aking kapatid. Pero nitong nakaraang araw nanggugulo ang aking ex at gusto niya kunin ang bata dahil inabandona ko daw ang aming anak. Yung pagtatrabaho ko ba dito sa jeddah ay maituturing abondonement? Gusto ko po sana malaman kung anong dapat kong gawin para hindi niya makuha sakin ang bata. Kinakailangan ko ba umuwi ng pinas?



Translation: I am here now in Jeddah. I went abroad in 2010. Went I left the Philippines, my husband and I were ok. But in early 2012, I heard rumors that he has a live in partner in the Philippines, and our son confirmed this because they brought my son with them to their house. When I went home last September 2012, I was also able to confirm that this is true. I came back here to Jeddah to continue my work and to support my son, who is now under the care of my sibling. But these past few days, my ex contacted me saying that he wants to get our son, because I allegedly abandoned our son. Can my working in Jeddah be considered as abandonement? I would like to know what I could do. Should I go home to take care of this?

 

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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
is a Legal expert in the Philippines
Hello, Sarah. Ang tanong mo: kung yun bang pagta-trabaho mo sa Jeddah ay maituturing na abandonment ng inyong anak. Hindi. Una sa lahat, tanggap na ng ating lipunan na may mga inang kailangang mangibang-bansa upang maghanap buhay. Kung kaya't ang pagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa'y hindi abandonment. Ang abandonment ay ang pagpapabaya ng isang magulang sa kanyang anak. Ngayon, kung ikaw ay nagpapadala ng pera para sa mga pangangailangan ng iyong anak (sa pagkain, tirahan, at pag-aaral), at kung kayo'y may regular na communications (skype, email, facebook or text messages etc), hindi masasabing abandonado ang iyong anak. Kung ang iyo namang pag-bilin ng iyong anak sa pag-iingat ng iyong kapatid ang pag-uusapan, may judicial notice na ang mga husgado na sa kultura ng mga Pilipino, ang tinatawag na kinship care (o ang pag-aalaga ng extended family sa kapwa miyembro ng family) ay likas sa atin.
Mas maigi siguro kung sa susunod mong pag-uwi, gawin mo nang legal ang pagiging guardian ng iyong anak ang iyong kapatid. I cannot give you advice directly. Talk to a lawyer. Hope this helps.
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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose

I am a graduate of the UP College of Law. Member of the Integrated Bar of the Philippines since 1995. I am currently involved in private practice in criminal, civil and labor law.
Profession: Lawyer
Adelaimar C. Arias-Jose
Office Address: #34 St. Michael Street
Philippines , Manila , Makati
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