Share sa sustento sa anak, Child support parent separation divorce, Alimony

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Kami pong mag-asawa ay nag t-trabaho sa mag kaibang bansa. May problema po sa amin pagsasama gawa ng puro away at bangayan na lang. Hindi po ako pumalya ng remittance sa mga anak ko simula ng ako'y mag abroad. Ako lang po ang inuubliga ng Ina ng mga anak ko sa gastusin ng mga bata ngayun napapabalitang meron syang lalake sa lugar na pinag t-trabahuhan nya. Maari ko po bang obligahin din sya sa gastusin ng mga bata dahil nasabi din po sa akin na sya ang gumagastos sa lalake? Maaare ko po ba siyang hanapan ng resibo buhat ng mag abroad sya kung saan nya dinanadala ang sahod nya. Sana po matulungan nyo ako sa bagay na ito.


Translation: My wife and I are working abroad, in different countries. Our relationship and marriage has problems, as we often fight, quarrel and there is rumpus. Nevertheless, I have not missed sending financial support/remittance to our children, ever since I worked abroad. The mother (my wife) obligates me to pay for the expenses of our children, and it seems as if she is not sharing in paying for expenses for the children. Can I obligate my ex-wife to pay for the expenses of our children, since I heard that she has another guy (working in the same company where she is also working), and she is spending for her lover/paramour? Can I demand that she show receipts showing where she is spending her salary while working abroad?


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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
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Ang bawat magulang (mother and father, both) ay may obligasyon na magbigay ng support sa kanilang mga anak. Lalo na, if both the parents are working abroad. As long as you are sure and you have proof that your wife is not sending support for your children, then you can always go to court and demand that she be ordered to pay support for them as well.

Ang problema, kasi, wala naman sa iyo ang mga anak mo. Hindi ikaw ang may custody sa kanila. So, you really cannot know if your wife is not sending any money for your kids. Besides, you have to go to the Philippines and file the petition for support here. ARe you willing to come home to the Philippines to do just that?

Kung ako sa iyo, mag-open ka na lang nga bank account sa pangalan ng mga anak mo (ITF accounts). Tapos, mag-deposit ka noong inaakala mo na dapat mong ipadala kung ang asawa mo din ay nagpapadala sa kanila. This way, you have proof that you are sending support and you can control the amount and you can be sure that the money will be used for your children only -- this will work especially if your children are aged 16 or above. That way, they can hold their own money through an ATM.
anonymous
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Thank you Po atty. Bimbi... sa ngayun po nakatanggap ako ng Demand letter galing sa Pilipinas na pinadala sa akin ng Ina ng mga anak ko. naka saad po don na in behalf of my wife obligado akong magpadala ng 35k bwan bwan at ipangalan sa anak kong panganay.. hindi ko po kayang magpadala ng 35k bwan bwan gawa ng ang hindi naman po kalakihan ang sahod ko dito sa pinapasukan ko.. ang demand letter po ay nilagdaan ng isang attorney sa pinas. ang normal na padala ko po bwan bwan sa mga bata ay 25k at sumasapat naman po ito. tama po ba ang prosesong ito na obligahin ako ng magpadala ng 35k..? sa ngayun po wala akong kakayan na umuwe ng pilipinas para mag reklamo.. ang sa akin lang po sana ay maging patas.. at nakasaad din po sa demand letter na kapag hindi ako nakapag padala ng 35k ay sasampahan ako ng civil at criminal action for the protection of my children rights.

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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose

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