Naghahabol sustento, DSWD, Alimony, financial support for child

Ellie Delacruz
is in the Philippines

Ano po ba ang pwede kung gawin para mapatunayan na fake ang kasal namin noon ng aking kinakasama? Kinasal kami with proxy at di ako pumirma sa papel, ginaya lang nila ang pirma ko dahil dito ako noon sa Maynila at sila ay nasa probinsiya. Hiwalay na kami 5 yrs na nakalipas. May dalawang kaming anak, yung isa iniwan niya sa akin nung umalis siya dito sa amin. Tapos ngayon malaki na 7 yrs na anak anak namin ay kinuha niya ng walang paalam. Sa madaling salita ay ninakaw niya at dinala sa magulang niya sa probinsiya [pinaalaga sa iba at siya nagstay dito sa maynila di naman siya nag aalaga sa mga anak namin.

Tapos ngayon nagahahabol ng sustento at nanakot na hihingi siya tulong sa DSWD at sa mga libreng abogado para lang mademanda ako.

At mayroon narin ako iba, 2 years na kami nagsasama dito sa bahay ng magulang ko at may isa na kaming anak. Nanakot ang una ko kinakasama na edidimanda niya kami ng kinakasama ko pati sa hindi ko pagbigay sa anak namin.

Kasi po ninakaw niya walang paalam. Nagalit ako kaya hindi ako nagbibigay. Wala rin po akong trabaho. Galing ibang bansa dati ang bago ko kinakasama, at ang pang araw-araw namin na ginagastos ay galing pa sa ipon ng kinasama ko ngyon mula ibang bansa.

May laban po ba ako sakaling idemanda niya kami? At pano ko mapatunayan na fake ang kasal namin noon at libre po ba talaga ang abodago sakaling hingi siya tulong sa DSWD? Wala ba siyang gagastosin sakaling sampahan niya kami ng kaso? Ang mama ko nasa ibang bansa at handa kami magbayad sa abogado sakaling idemanda niya kami.

Naghiwalay kami dahil pabaya siyang ina at asawa. Minsan dala dala niya ang anak namin noon nakikipaginoman sa mga kapit bahay at di niya ako maasikaso noong nagtatrabaho pa ako. Kaya nagdesisyon ako na makipaghiwalay sa kanya. Ngayon na nalaman na may kinakasama na ako saka naghabol ng suporta at nanggugulo dahil hindi niya matanggap na may iba na ako. Ano po ang pupwede kong gawin. Sana matulongan niyo po ako. Salamat po.


Translation: What could I do to prove that the marriage between me and my previous partner is not valid/fake? We were married with proxy and I did not sign on the documents/certificate. They just copied my signature, because I was here in Manila then, and they were in the province. We've been separated for 5 years now. We have 2 children-one was left for me to care when she left me. Now the child is now 7 years old, she took the child without telling or asking for my permission. In other words, she stole our son/daughter and brought him/her to her parents in the province fofr them to take care of. (She is staying here in Manila, and she is not taking care of our child herself)

Now she is demanding financial support and threatening to go to DSWD (Department of Social Welfare and Development) to get assistance from free lawyers (pro bono) file a case/sue me.

I have another partner now and we've been together for 2 years now here in our house with my parents. We have one child. My previous partner is threatening me and my current partner because I am not providing support for our child.

It's because she took our child from me without permission. I was mad and angry, so I did not give financial support. I also do not have a job or work. My current partner came from working abroad, and the money that we are using for our daily needs comes from the savings of my current partner while working abroad.

Do I have strong, valid defense if she does decide to file lawsuit against me? How can I prove that our marriage is fake? Can she really ask for a lawyer from DSWD, who can help her for free? Won't she have to spend anything? My mother is working abroad, and we are willing to pay for a lawyer, in case my previous partner sues me.

My previous partner and I separated because she was negligent as a mother and wife. There were times when she took our child with her to her drinking sessions with neighbors, and she did not take care of me when I was working then. So I decided to separate from her. Now that she finds out that I am livng with another woman, she comes back to ask for financial support and harrasses us, because she could not accpet that I already have someone else. What could I do?



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Ellie Delacruz

Philippines , antipolo city
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Adelaimar C Arias-Jose
is a Legal expert in the Philippines
Tungkol sa fake na kasal: kailangan mayroon kang proof na fake ito; kailangan mag-file ka ng petition for declaration of nullity.
Sa totoo lang, nagka-anak kayo ng dalawa --- ang anak sinusustentohan, kahit saan ka magpunta, kahit may muhi ka sa asawa mo, ang dugo mo, dapat ay sustentohan mo. Ingat ka, ang hindi pagbibigay ng sustento ay maiko-consider na abuse of children.
Sa DSWD : walang kapangyarihan ang DSWD na mamagitan sa mga ganitong kaso. They can give advice but I doubt kung may mga libre silang abogado.
You need a lawyer. Go and find a lawyer and ask for advice.
anonymous
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thank you so much po ATTY.BIMBI..malaking tulong po ang advice niyo po sa akin..GODBLESS
Anne De Mesa
is a non-Filipino member from the Philippines
hiwalay po kami ng tatay ng anak kong panganay 15 years na ang nakalipas simula po noon sinilang ko ang anak ko walang sustento kami natatanggap mula sa tatay nya noong nkaraan taon ang humingi kami ng tulong sa kanyang ama para sa pagaaral nangako sya na magbbigay kahit na kaunti ganon pa man ay wala padin syang naitulong para sa anak ko ngayon malapit na ang pasukan sinusubukan namin ulit humingi ng tulong para sa pagaaral ng anak ko pero mukhang wala nanaman syang maitutulong. napagpasyahan ko na humingi ng tulong sa knya dahil walang trabaho ang asawa ko ngayon at sya naman ay may hanap buhay. hindi po ba dapat na bigyan pansin din nya ang anak ko katulad ng pagbibigay nya sa pangangailangan ng oba pa nyang anak ngayon sa asawa nya. ano po ba ang dapat ko gawin
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